What I learned being in a Cuckold Relationship
Chances are as a member of an adult dating community you are familiar with the term Cuckold, but perhaps many of you aren’t familiar with the female equivalent Cuckquean? Maybe you have explored this fetish yourself? Perhaps you have no idea what I am talking about, and for the latter, let’s unpack this subject a little together.
In simple terms, a Cuckhold or Cuckquean’s fetish is their partner cheating on them, in fact they encourage it, they receive their sexual enjoyment from the humiliation of being made a submissive victim. The wife who enjoys cuckolding her husband is called a cuckoldress. In a large study of human sexuality Justin Lehmiller discovered that 58% of men and around a third of women had thought about cuckolding.
Psychologists regard cuckold fetishism as a variant of masochism, the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated. The cuckold might enjoy being told he can’t satisfy his woman, has a tiny cock, or might be “for/ced” to watch his wife get fucked by larger and stronger men. Part of the desire is seeing their partner receive the type of pleasure that they can’t provide.
There is fascinating research on the biological/subconscious reasons for this cuckold desire in men. Specifically, sperm competition. A primal throwback to how nature evolves from the breeding of the strong and casting aside the weak. As a result, the cuckold partner is likely to ejaculate harder, have more sperm in their ejaculate and have a shorter refractory period between sessions. Thus, making sure so much sperm is in their lady that if there was a sperm that would create life it would have to be theirs. Interestingly, Janet Williams in a BBC article went as far as to suggest the term Cuckold is derived partially from the cuckoo bird “The word often implies that the husband is deceived; that he is unaware of his wife's unfaithfulness and may not know until the arrival or growth of a child plainly not his (as with cuckoo birds)”.
This biological explanation doesn’t explain why women are aroused by dominating a cuckold to this degree. Many Cuckoldress’ report loving the sense of power, and the heightened sense of importance they achieve. As a woman, I can also see that there is something alluring about having other people want my partner, it may remind us why we first wanted them in the first place and how special they are.
I dated a low key cuckold, and there were parts of the dynamic that were a dream.
The first year I was with this partner, he was open to me being with anyone that I wanted, as long as I told him the story afterward. The best sex my partner and I had was often after I was sexual with someone else and would involve the humiliation of me telling my partner how much better the people I hooked up with were in bed (often not true), and how small his penis was (even though in reality it was quite big). He even wanted me to come home covered in another partner’s cum and give him the honor of licking it off me.
The freedom was exciting, but at times I felt that to have great sex with my partner, I had to be with someone else. This was kind of weird, because I really just wanted to be with my partner. Although he never pushed me to be with other people, I would sometimes hook up with other people more for our relationship than because I really wanted to be with the other person.
As well, it did lead to this weird power differential, because I was in a dominant position, where I could fuck whoever I wanted and turn my partner on by sharing the experience with him in some way. In the submissive position, he could only hear about me getting fucked by other people.
It’s also important to note that it is not a cuckold relationship if the submissive is not a willing and consenting party to the humiliation and degrading aspects of this fetish. It’s not a free card to be an arsehole and gain pleasure at the expense of another’s well being.
Cuckolding can be an exciting fetish to explore with your partner, however we do strongly suggest you talk between yourselves at great length before introducing it into your relationship, as this can potentially be very destructive. So venture with caution if you dare!
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